Best ways to donate to ME/CFS Research  

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ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford

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Stanford Genome Technology Center
The ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford (MECFS CRC) is where the best research into ME/CFS is happening anywhere in the world. Your donation will have the biggest impact on patient's quality of life and go the furthest towards finding a diagnostic, treatments and a cure.
Click here on the ME/CFS collaborative Research Center Website:
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The Open Medicine Foundation (OMF) advocates for ME/CFS awareness and research funding that they allocate to ME/CFS research centers around the world. Ronald W, Davis, the Director the the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center is the director of the scientific advisory board for OMF. They are a wonderful organization. But if you donate to OMF, only a portion or possibly none of your donated funds will go to the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford, where the best research is happening. However, you can donate to OMF and specify in your donation notes that all the funds go to the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford. They will honor that.

Support My Advocacy Work  

If you enjoy or benefit from my writings, photography and advocacy work please consider becoming a patron or making a contribution to support me continuing this work. It is expensive to produce and requires a great sacrifice on my part. But please do not feel obligated or hurt your ability to sustain yourself financially. My work will always be available to everyone for free.

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A lot of you ask or wonder in the comments how I write these pieces or make these photographs in this blog when I’m so severely ill with ME/CFS. The answer is actually pretty simple - sacrifice.

For example, during a recent week I woke up with energy and immediately used it to start working on a post to share on my social media pages. But after writing the post, making photographs for it and getting it scheduled on Facebook and Instagram and Twitter and published on my blog (which all adds up to a lot of work), I was exhausted and wound up laying down still, sleeping uncontrollably for the rest of the day. And these are long 36 to 48 hour days for me. For complicated reasons, my schedule does not go with the sun, but rather with how long it takes to pump enough calories worth of liquid food into my jtube to sustain me, and when I can’t sleep or my stomach gets sensitive and delays my schedule, which happens most days, I wind up with 36 hour or 48 hour days. So in the end, the only thing I was able to do for 3 days was make a social media post during the only time that I had any mental clarity. The rest of the time I couldn’t answer emails, or spend time with my Niece when she was here, or text with my sister, or stay connected with people I care about online, or watch any movies or series, etc. I laid in bed still and mostly slept. This pattern is quite common for me.

So it’s not that I have more energy than other people, it’s that I prioritize writing and photographing and sharing that with all of you above all else. When I have energy, creating advocacy content is the first thing I do and often the last.

I had the idea recently to offer people the option to support this work and the energy I put into it. I don't have much going on outside of this work like a job, or a relationship, or many friends, or much energy to connect with my family. This is what I do with my free time and energy.

After I got a bit better from Abilify, I had the energy to work on more than I can now and more than this ME/CFS advocacy work and I started making my own headphones which is a hobby I started when I became housebound, as it’s something creative I can do sitting down inside that uses little energy. I completed multiple headphone models and started a website hoping to start a company selling them. You can read more about my headphones here:

 rhythmdevils audio

But I am now too sick to make production units to sell, so decided to hire a friend to make them for me, but I now have too little energy to train him and I’m worried about crashing from the training sessions even if I take Ativan to protect me. So it has been delayed for a long time. But i’m telling you because I may have a headphone company up and running at some point. Still, any funds generated from that company would just go towards paying back the significant R&D costs of developing them. And I’m too sick to keep creating new models and possibly too sick to make the company happen at all which breaks my heart as I’ve put so much love into the project and they are truly special, one of a kind headphones. So I may eventually have another job, but right now this work is my job and my purpose and it will always come before anything else.

My ME/CFS advocacy work also costs a lot of money in all the equipment I need to maintain like my computer, backup hard drives, the latest iPhone for the best image quality, a DSLR, a huge amount of camera gear to allow me to make images from bed, etc.

So since this ME/CFS advocacy work is a job for me (one I love) and is expensive, I’m going to let people make contributions to my work if they choose to on a Patreon page I’ve created, or directly with one time or recurring donations in multiple payment formats.

I want to be clear about this with you all though, that it is an option. I know that many or most of you are having a hard time financially, as this illness usually takes away our means of income while at the same time costing a lot of money because insurance doesn’t consider it legitimate. I could not even get a wheelchair from my insurance company covered when i could no longer walk to the kitchen to get food to keep myself fed, and a wheelchair would have allowed me to get to the kitchen freely. I had to buy a used wheelchair myself on Craigslist. This is just one example of course, there are many examples like this from all of us, most of which are cruel, inhumane and devastating. So I understand that it is difficult or impossible to maintain an income and a very expensive life to lead.

So I want to be clear that nothing I create will ever cost you money. I will never charge for anything of substance that I create unless it is published somewhere that does charge money for accessing it. My goal is to help ME/CFS patients, not to make money.

I also understand that donating to ME/CFS research is the most important thing, and I have links to donate to ME/CFS research displayed prominently everywhere i can, always above any link to support me.

But I believe that we need more than just research donations and that my work is important for awareness (which generates research donations) and directly important for patients, caregivers, friends, loved ones and our world wide community as a whole to survive and sustain itself.

So I want to allow people who can give back to me an opportunity to do so in whatever amount makes sense to them financially. I might make some exclusive content on my Patreon site, but it will never be anything that I think would benefit fellow patients or the community, it would only be fun bits and pieces. And if you donate a certain amount that makes it financially possible, I hope to offer an annual print of an image of mine, possibly with a quote or bit of inspiration.

I’m telling you this because I know how the internet works, rumors spread quickly and often seem more valid than the truth. I want you to know the truth here first and avoid you just finding "support my advocacy work" buttons on my blogs or pages and thinking the worst or hearing rumors from others about secret content. There will never be secret content for people who can contribute, only the knowledge that you are supporting me and possibly a gift if the amount you contribute makes a gift financially feasible for me to give back to you and I have the energy to create such a gift on top of my work.

Most importantly I want to be clear that I only want people to give what they can and what feels right to them. If that is nothing, that is fine.

So when you see buttons here or there to support my advocacy work, do not feel pressure, do not feel obligation, just feel an opportunity to give back to me if you enjoy or have benefitted from my works and if you are financially able to give an amount that won’t negatively impact your life.

I want to thank all of you regardless of whether you can give back to me financially or not, because you all give back to me in a huge way. I will always be grateful to this entire community for the sense of purpose you have given my life in this work. I don’t know what I would do if I had no way of helping the ME/CFS community. Even in 2013-2020 before I took Abilify, when I could not make this work because I was too sick to use a phone or computer or camera or even communicate in any way whatsoever, I was planning this work, writing pieces in my head, going over them time and time again so I would not forget them, and imagining what I would create. You all have given me a way to, in some ways, fulfill my dreams of using my creative energy to help people.

So thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart. I love the ME/CFS community, I love all my fellow ME/CFS warriors and the people who help them or sustain them or befriend them or love them. I love this whole community very deeply and would do anything in my power to help all of you.

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Divisiveness and Infighting in the ME/CFS Community

I feel ashamed. Not of any one individual out there but of the ME/CFS community as a whole for what some of us have done to Jen Brea. It is truly shameful and we should all feel this way.

She has sacrificed so much, maybe more than any other ME/CFS patient in the history of this illness to spreading awarenes - making a feature award winning documentary film and starting and leading MEaction. She is also more recently trying to help figure out the newly discovered cranial issues that we now know can cause ME/CFS. She is highly intelligent and spends enormous amounts of time and energy pouring through literature and scientific studies looking for answers. She consults with a specialist Doctor about her ideas and is always very careful to tell people that she is not a doctor and urges people to seek advice from a medical professional. This is responsible and productive.

My father Ron Davis has spoken with her about her ideas and thinks they are legitimate hypotheses and very well thought out. Furthermore, they are ideas and connections that no one has come up with before.

These are very good things for all of us. She is an incredible light and force of progress for this illness.

And yet a group of ME/CFS patients relentlessly attack her personally for her ideas and God knows what else to the extent that she is so exhausted she is stepping down from director of MEaction. This is despicable and simply unacceptable if we ever want to be cured of this illness.

Many of these same people who have attacked Jen seem to also "know" what causes ME/CFS and attack anyone with other ideas. I’ve got news for these people: YOU HAVE NO FUCKING CLUE. You are not an educated scientist; Even the world renowned scientists who are working on figuring out ME/CFS don’t know yet. There was a time when it was maybe useful for ME/CFS patients to be trying to figure out the illness themselves and come up with theories because no one else was. It is still useful to some extent but times have changed. We now have renowned scientists all over the world working full time to figure out the cause of ME/CFS and find a cure as fast as possible.

It can still be useful for intelligent patients like Jen to investigate open-mindedly and give these researchers new ideas but like Jen, we have to leave it to the highly educated, experienced, award winning researchers to actually figure out what the causes are.

ME/CFS has a long, pathetic history of petty infighting and division over insignificant matters. Just a few years ago Cort Johnson was forced out of the forum Phoenix Rising he created and had to start a new website for his incredible journalism about ME/CFS. This has left Cort with a smaller audience and Phoenix Rising with a serious lack of content. I don’t care why this happened, I don’t even want to know. It’s just shameful and unacceptable for this kind of thing to be happening in a patient population that needs every bit of possible momentum and awareness to have a chance at a cure. That’s what we all want right? Because the actions of some ME/CFS patients are hindering progress towards a cure and setting our advances back years.

These are just two examples, there are far too many stories like this in the history of ME/CFS to tell or even count. And these things don’t happen with other illnesses.

Part of the reason for this is that since there is so little funding for ME/CFS, there is no organization that has power and authority to set the messaging, tone and public relations for this illness. So everyday people wind up capable of having a much louder voice than those with other illnesses which have such organizations. But you all have the power to choose who to be and how to act.

What keeps happening to exemplary people in this community like Cort Johnson and Jen Brea cannot continue. They are our leaders, or voice, our hope. If you want to help, then think about what is actually good for ME/CFS and put your energy into that instead of harming our progress for the sake of your ego or emotional needs.

We must also remain open minded. Do we not want to find out the real cure or just validate our own egos? I want to know the truth whatever it is even if it flies in the face of all my own theories.

Stop the self righteous, arrogant bickering, fighting, personal attacks and divisive tactics.

Please. Think before you act. Treat fellow ME/CFS patients with respect. Stay open minded. Don’t engage in actions that divide us and denigrate our leaders.

Let’s come together and work together for the common goal of ending ME/CFS. I know you are all alone and desperate. But I promise you significant progress is being made. Let’s all contribute to that progress rather than hinder it.